“You are a midwife assisting at someone else’s birth. Do good without show or fuss. Facilitate what is happening rather than what you think ought to be happening. If you must, take the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet still free and in charge. When the babe is born the mother will rightly say, “We did it ourselves!”
From the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tsu 5th Century B.C.
This applies to doulas too!